Countdown to being a MRS: Bridal Showers, DIY weddings and relationship

I warn you this post might be a bit long but you may still enjoy reading it. This is technically three blogs in one but time seems to be flying so I'm making the most of this opportunity to write them all now.

Let's start with relationships. So I'm getting married in two weeks and I know that I'm marrying a good man. I believe our relationship is blessed because we work at it and God is indeed placed at the centre of it. This is a formula that from experience seems to be working so I believe our marriage will be blessed also, if we maintain the standards and the Godly principles we are striving to maintain. Now I am not in any way shape or form a relationship guru, nor do I like to make generalisations but from the longitudinal study carried out in my own life, I have come to one conclusion: When God is purposely placed and kept in a relationship (i.e. having a relationship with Him individual and collectively) the relationship has a greater chance of being blessed. I've experienced relationships when this formula of me+God and he +God = we+God wasn't put in to practice and also seen relationships that failed because of this too be it marriages or relationships and sometimes it makes you wonder why... so for nearly 2 and a half years into it, me and the mister pray for each other, thank God for each other and encourage each other on our spiritual walk because we realise how important it is to have God in the relationship, I don't know how people do it otherwise. I honestly cannot complain about him. Wouldn't trade him in for anyone else. And through reading all these books on marriage, I'm learning to respect and admire him and show him and tell him daily because that is what he needs. He is learning to show love and affection and show/tell me daily too because he understands what I need. We've learnt that we have to really consider the needs of the other person and sometimes that is hard because well...it takes sacrifice and compromise that sometimes our pride won't allow us to make....this is why I need God because only He can help me love like He does, unconditionally even when the person seems unlovable, and forgive even when the person seems unforgivable. God brought us together and God will keep us together if we keep it together with God...that's what I believe and so far I have no reason to doubt that.

That was a bit deep...so on a slightly lighter note...I am going barmy with origami. DIY wedding stuff is fun yes but time consuming, cost effectively but the quality may not be to everyone's cup o' tea...but then I thought...I don't drink tea (unless its herbal or redbush) and its my wedding lol. So someone may come along on the day and can tell things are DIY because  well you can just tell. That did bother me a little and I started to worry about what people will think...then I encouraged myself and said you will always get someone complaining about something, I'm guilty of that in regards to other peoples weddings (my bad)  but then you realise its not about you its about the bride and groom and if they look happy and picked that design, décor, menu, dress or whatever, they loved it, they picked it, they paid for it. It was their vision, their version and that's just the way it is. Who am I to say they should have done this or that, or I don't like that colour on the flower girl? Exactly so I know with my very DIYesque wedding there is likely to be someone or many who did not like the theme, scheme, team, beam, gleam but its my dream and I'm happy with it! I believe I  can go to sleep and wake up after the wedding knowing I put a darn lot of work and effort (and others too) into making a thought come to reality and I loved every detail, and I will always know my wedding will be unique because of those personal may be slightly wonky slight irregular slightly unsymmetrical it all yet gawjus creative unique personal touches. That's what makes memories. That's what matters and I get the added bonus of not entering a marriage severely broke. So my glass of room temp Schloer I raise to DIY weddingers everywhere...woorah!

Ok now I've got that off my chest I can continue screaming with joy (internally now because I'm shattered) because I'm getting married in two weeks and just had an amazing bridal shower. There was games...loads of fun games...and prizes, food, presents and just a jolly good time with some great people. I really enjoyed myself even the pressies that I'm sure Sid will be happy with two ;). My chief bridesmaid really organised an amazing day and now I'm looking forward to the wedding all the more. Yes I grateful to God for all these blessings....sigh...I'm happy; a happy bride to be!

Countdown to being a MRS: Day 28

Well, I sort of skipped a couple day from the a-blog-a-day 30 days wedding countdown I thought I'd do but to be honest, where would that time to do that come from? There is a lot going on at the moment from church and KidzPraise and praise team, choir, campaigns, uni, placement, and then of course wedding planning - which is more like wedding doing because there's no time to still be planning.

But I thank God because despite the plethora of things I happen to be involved in, I am not stressed. I am enjoying myself and loving things coming together.

The wedding planning/doing is going really well and with only a few minor details to manage, I am very happy and excited. A lot of work has gone in to this and so I thank God and my boo, my friends and family as well as those who are praying.

So far almost every day since May started I've woken up, smiled ,screamed  a little and been 'skinning teet' because I am (life spare) getting married next month. I've got 4 weeks left of this single life and you know what, I'm alright with that. 

It feels good, and even better knowing that I have a good man. Praise the Lord!

So yup, we are doing good....no stress...no Bridezilla moments....long may it continue.

Here's to day 28!

Count down to being a MRS: Where has the time gone?'

As the end of April approaches, I cannot help but realise that I am getting married soon. Like real soon. Like seriously...May is next week and the month after that is??? Exactly! I'm getting married REAL soon!

I'm having mixed emotions as the big day approaches. Not the cold feet kind - I definitely want to get married to my Boo. And also not the am I not ready kind - we've had premarital counselling, couples bible studies, working through books on marriage, we pray together, have devotions together, discussed at length all the things we need to know about each other before taking this step. Getting married is something we've put in the work for because we want it to be a success, and we know it will come with it's challenges - dude! we're taking this stuff seriously - IF YOU FAIL TO PREPARE, PREPARE TO FAIL! Now I'm not saying we're experts, or we have unrealistic expectations, but I'm not worried - God has us covered!

What the emotions are linked to is the 'OH MY DAYS I'M GETTING MARRIED!!! If you haven't been there, I'm sorry but that's the best explanation I can give lol!

It's exciting and emotional. I'm nervous. I'm buzzing...I'm all over the place - but it's all positive.

We had a wedding party get together at my place last Sunday. The Mum-in-law cooked us a great lunch and most of our gorgeous wedding party turned up. It was jokes and really nice to see everyone together getting to know each other so it's not awkward on the day. After our bellies were filled, we decided to go through the processional steps. Our trusty musician sat on a beanbag with a keyboard on his lap playing our songs. The original idea was to borrow the aisle of my church down the road but because we got off to a late start we had to make do with going through one side of the living room, down the corridor through the kitchen back through the other entrance to the living room. We made it work trust me. I have to give props to the MIL and a good friend of mine helping to organise us and by the third attempt it was looking good.

This was where I started getting emotional - even though I weren't in my dress, we weren't at the church but in my living room, watching the wedding party do the walk just made me realise we our rehearsing for a wedding. MY wedding! It's crazy y'all! but I thank God!

So with 45 days to go and counting, I am getting married! Go Nai!

Countdown to being a MRS: 2 months to go

Today is the 8th of April....
Do you know what that means?
2 months, TWO months II months from now I will be walking down the aisle towards one tall dark and handsome piece of awesomeness also known as my boo.
Wedding planning is going well I believe. Put it this way...I have my dress, shoes and special undies ;), we know when and where we're having it and people are likely to turn up...so yeah I think it's going well.

I've been asked if I'm stressed. I've said no. If I am, I am so not aware of it lol.
This journey has been so much fun. From finding the dress and wishing to wear it all the time and then realising putting that thing on is a two man job so it will stay locked away for now, to getting all on this 'crafts-ting' cutting, sticking, curling and glittering the life out of things...place looks like tinkerbell's been here. I've been wearing this glitter everywhere and wouldn't be surprised if I haven't eaten some of it. Though I was informed by one of my lovely bridesmaids that eating glitter will turn you into a unicorn...so I'll stick to food lol.

All in all, the journey is fun but I really want it to come around now so I can see the end result of all the preparation and hard work that has been put it by Sid and I and my wonderful helpers, and of course start our journey of marriage to my gift from God.

It's great and exciting and scary but awesome at the same time...though my dreams are really showing the deeper levels of anxiety I must have towards this wedding stuff. 2 dreams in under 2 weeks all relating to the wedding day and all showing things going wrong; either I'm not ready or vital components are missing such as my parents, the photographer and decent singing...

However.....our day will be fine because whatever happens will happen but I'm a leave it all in God's hands.

Yes.....2 months and counting!!